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JENNIFER'S GEMS
by Jennifer Brown Banks

Common Misconceptions About Women

 “There is none so blind as he who will not see.”

For some “ignorance is bliss.”

For mating and dating ignorance is romantic suicide

In fact, if I had a dollar for every guy who messed up a potentially meaningful relationship because he lacked the proper information, mindset, or social skills, I'd be rich.

Not being armed with the right tools for intimacy is like dating in the dark.

Fellas, if you want your dating options to grow more, then you need to know more; particularly If you desire to be “diary-worthy”. 

Don't buy into all the hype perpetuated by the media and your misinformed peers.

There is a better way.

Here's the “411”and some words of wisdom to give you much needed insight into the inner-workings of the opposite sex.

Which of the following myths are you guilty of...?

Myths and Misconceptions About Women:

• MYTH #1---That we're all alike.
  Heck, even in my own circle of associates we're different. Some of us like older men, others prefer younger. Some like the athletic type while others are into intellectuals. Some are cool with interracial dating, others are not. She likes coffee, I like tea. Get my drift?

• MYTH # 2---That we think you're desperate
  if you call us right away after getting those 7 digits.  Frankly, I think it's cute and kinda' sexy.  It shows that a man is confident enough in himself to do away with rules and game playing. For example, I still remember with fondness a guy I formerly dated that called me a mere 2 hours after he and I met while running my weekend errands. It conveyed a certain level of enthusiasm, and made me feel special.

• MYTH # 3---That nice guys finish last with us
  Sure, I think most females go through a phase where we are drawn to the “forbidden fruit” or guys that give us drama. But trust me, that grows old quick!  A mature, quality woman with a little experience under her belt, and a sense of her own self-worth seeks a man who adds to her peace and enjoyment of life, not one who takes away from it

• MYTH # 4---That we're all seeking to be rescued
  Most independent women of today are merely seeking a “grown-up” partner who is able to be manly without being macho. One who is gentle yet strong---someone who is not tit for tat in his interactions. Like many aspects of life, you get out of relationships what you put into them. Get a clue.

• MYTH # 5---That we're emotional creatures governed totally by P.M.S. and chocolate.
  Okay, on some days this may be true, but not always.:-) Look at the Forbes listing and you'll find a whole slew of women who are business minded, level-headed and at the top of their game.  Don't believe me? How about Oprah Winfrey, Martha Stewart, J.K. Rowling, and Madonna for examples...need I say more?

• MYTH # 6---That we're all crazy
  Would that include your mom too? Word to the wise--- if you keep running into “psycho chicks,” chances are you're a contributing factor.:-) Sorry, but the truth hurts sometimes.

• MYTH # 7---That we're too evolved and too independent to need you now. 

Nothing could be further from the truth. We do NEED you, and always will, no matter     how accomplished we become; men are the ice cream to our daily diets.  And when    you're at your best, we simply can't get enough!

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