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Dating with Disabilities
by Melissa Blake

Geeky Guys are Sexy

It’s common knowledge that I love nothing more than a geeky nerd in glasses. There’s nothing I find sexier than a guy carrying a book or writing something (a poem, perhaps?) in a notebook.

It all just gives me goosebumps. And for the longest time, I thought I was alone in my geek gawking for the longest time. And then I realized I wasn’t the only one. In fact, geeks are even beginning to break through stereotypes and turn the head of the supposed “popular” crowd.

Just take Molly Cook, an account executive for Florida-based public relations firm Costa DeVault, as an example. I had the pleasure of interviewing her recently on everything from her adorable geeky boyfriend to her views on the resurgence of the geek is chic phenomenon.

So tell me a little about yourself
I am the proud girlfriend of a 25-year-old “off-center” but loveable, geeky, mechanical engineer who recently changed jobs and is now a high school algebra teacher. The two of us went to high school together, where he was perceived as the nerdiest guy in our class. I, on the other hand, was the cheerleader, the senior class president, etc. We couldn’t have been more different. Little did I know that 6 years later, after both of us graduated from college and ended serious relationships, we would find ourselves at a friend’s wedding, getting to know each other all over again. He had, in that time, transformed from geek to chic geek. (Notice that I still leave geek at the end there. He cannot be described as ‘chic’ by itself). That’s because I was amazed how mature he’d grown, and how much he’d accomplished in such a short amount of time.

Why have geeks suddenly gained such credibility now?
Just as we’ve embarked on the green movement after years and years of prodding from environmentalists, so too has the dawn of the “geeks are awesome” era come upon us … after years and years of geeks changing and improving our world. It’s cool and trendy to be smart. Like you said, I think the onset of movies starring loveable geeks plays a big role.

Additionally, with the emergence of reality television shows like MythBusters, Modern Marvels, Beauty and the Geek, How It’s Made, etc., audiences everywhere can plainly see – and embrace – nerd coolness. These shows illustrate how fun it is to take things apart, make some modifications, share ideas and, in some cases, create something from nothing. Are the MythBusters brothers the most attractive guys in town? Are they the most suave, professional men on TV? No, but you can bet I’d like to meet them. Their passion for building and destroying things is very real, which has made them celebrities in their own right.

Finally, with the quick advancement of technology (think Internet, iPod, iPhone, Twitter, Skype, Web 2.0, online gaming, etc,) geeks are the masters of the I.T. universe, and we rely on them to keep our systems up and running. Sexy? Yes. Developments in science, too, must be credited to nerds anonymous.

Why have they been avoided as potential dates in the past?
Good question. Geeks have been overlooked in the past because of society’s overall perception of ‘cool.’ Again, I think the media has a lot to do with it. When I used to hear the term “nerd,” I usually thought “highly intelligent and sweet,” but also “physically weak” and/or “lacking social skills.”  In high school, my now-boyfriend met that description: tall and skinny with glasses – and also had a little bit of trouble ‘fitting in.”

However, during college and well into his working adult life, he started working out and eventually got the hang of social situations. When we met up again, not only did I find out that he had an incredible six-pack, but more importantly he told me that he had always wanted to change certain qualities about himself. Over the years, he simply put his mind to it. To me, that self-evaluation is one of the sexiest things anyone – especially a geek – can do.

What are the best hot spots for meeting a loveable geek?
Hmm. The public library. Geek Squad headquarters.

What can women gain by giving a geek a chance?
I think women can gain everything from a geek. They are meticulous in what they do, so you can bet he’ll remember dates, plan a great evening out, treat you like a princess, etc.

Columnist Note: Now if you’ll excuse me, I think I my computer needs some servicing at Best Buy.

Dating with Disabilities is published every Tuesday by Online Dating Magazine columnist Melissa Blake. Melissa is a freelance writer and columnist. Her work has been featured in Redbook, Pregnancy magazine and the Chicago Tribune. She can be reached at mellow1422@aol.com..

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